The 35-year-old daughter finally got married, and her parents were so excited that they came to "lent a book to get pregnant" and were afraid of the child s birth

With the changes in modern marriage style and family concepts, many young couples choose to continue living with their parents after marriage to reduce the pressure of life. However, can such choices really achieve both saving money and happiness in heaven? A woman in her 60s in Japan shared her experience of "separating" with her newlywed daughter and son-in-law, revealing the real difficulties and emotional ties that parents face in modern family structure.

"Forza Style" reports that Masayo Otsuka (pseudonym) in Japan now over 60 years old has a son and a daughter. The eldest son has long been economically independent. At the age of 35, the eldest daughter A met a man 4 years older than her through the Dating App and registered for marriage. Although the two are married, they still live in their respective hometowns and only "meet at night" for a short time when necessary, which is what is called "separation marriage" (also called wife marriage).

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Otsukara said that the daughter and her son-in-law believed that the risk of living together immediately after marriage was too great because the two of them were very long, and they were worried that they would not be able to meet the other party's life rhythm at once, and they were afraid that they would cause quarrels due to problems such as division of labor in their families. In addition, the cost of renting an independent house is too high. If you want to rent a one-bedroom or two-bedroom apartment in the area where your mother lives, the monthly rent will be 100,000 to 150,000 per day (about NT$20,000 to 30,000) and spend a lot of money to say that the young couple is burdened.

On the grounds of taking care of parents, I can't hide my true selfishness. After getting married, I continued to live in my parents' home. The living expenses are only paid daily for food, and the basic sales of the remaining rent, water and electricity are all subject to my parents' burden. Otsuka couldn't help but wonder that his daughter chose to divorce her so that she could save money. She was worried that a daughter would live forever and would have a dispute with the long-standing elder man in terms of wealth inheritance issues.

What made Otsuka even more dissatisfied was not only her daughter's choice, but also her flag of "care for parents". A said: "My dad is already over 60 years old, and she needs to consider the care problem in the future, so I think living together is better." But Otsuka admitted that she and her husband are healthy and her husband is even at work. This statement made her feel uncomfortable. She thought that her daughter obviously wanted to save money, so she used her parents as an excuse.

The child was not born yet and had predicted that the responsibility for childbirth fell on me

In addition, the daughter and son-in-law are currently preparing for pregnancy, which makes the atmosphere in the family more subtle. My son-in-law often came a few days ago, and I always asked Otsuka to guess that today is ovulation day. When my son-in-law came to live, although the family of four had dinner together was warm on the surface, at night, Otsuka, who was on the first floor, had to listen to the sounds and whispers of the floor from the second floor, and his heart was filled with lingering.

The daughter's pregnancy has not been successful yet, but Otsuka is already worried about the situation that may appear in the future. He believes that the daughter and the couple are obviously planning to turn the responsibility of childbirth to the two elders after the child is born. At this point, they can only use the second floor book room to "pregnancy". However, when they think about the care responsibility after the birth of the son in the future, they are actually full of pressure.

Is the wrong daughter? Or was the education of parents that year?

As for all this, Otsuka couldn't help but reflect: "Maybe, my daughter is not self-reliant, which is the result of my husband and I've been educated in the past." Despite this, she still said that if Suko is really born in the future, she would be willing to give necessary assistance, but at the same time she also emphasized that she would explain what she could and could not do in advance, and do not let herself bear too much debt.