If you often don’t care about underwear, you should be wary of it! Advisor psychologist: "Playing preferences" often steal in fixed places

For men, sexual love is not just a channel for ejaculation of desire, it can also "feel like a man", but at the same time it can "reduce anxiety" and "adjust the pressure of life". In his new book "Insight into the Heart from the Treatment" (published in the Times), Lin Cuifen, a consultant psychologist, mentioned that, therefore, once a man is not satisfied with his sexual desire, he will develop a serious "sexual anxiety". In order to reduce his anxiety, men will try various incredible methods and even develop a habit of "dangerous sexual preferences". A dangerous sexual preference (Paraphilic Disorder) refers to the inappropriate nature of "sexual objects" and "sexual purposes". People with "dangerous sexual preferences" will repeat the following behaviors to cause sexual excitement:

* The objector is obsessed with non-human items.

* It brings pain or humiliation to the self or others.

* The sexual object is a child or other object that is not generally accepted.

* Ninety-five percent of people with sexual preference are male.

* Once a preference is formed, it will show an extremely stable "sexual interest".

* Most people with sexual preferences have a very distant relationship with society.

* Sexual preferences generally give people a sense of immaturity.

* Many sexual preferences have sexual dysfunction.

People with object preferences must use certain "lifeless" items to induce sexual excitement or orgasm

They lack the pursuit of sexual pleasure with real people, but instead have a high sense of excitement towards the "objects". They have been in a continuous six months, and have repeatedly experienced strong sexual disturbances and sexual fantasies about the "objects". If they are sexually ill clothing, fetishists usually wear those clothes to masturbate, or engage in sexual behavior. Most of them are aliens and do not have a consensus problem with their physiological differences.

There was a person who used to steal women's clothes by relying on a long bamboo pole. Because he had been taking women's underwear at a fixed location almost every day, he had long been photographed by a monitor. The police arrested him according to the cable. The most common thing that is "being trapped" is women's underwear, and in addition, croakers and shoes are also the favorites of ophthalmists.

In Taiwan, I have seen people who prefer objects have special love for women's high heels. They often sneak into apartments to steal high heels from female residents. The number is as high as 500. Because the number is too large, he even moved out of the two rooms in his house to pile up stolen shoes. Until the police came to investigate, the mother who lived under the same house was unaware of this situation, and it can be seen how distant the mother and son were. Lin Cuifen said that the female student who once rented a house often disappeared. How should I deal with it better? When I asked her to call the police, the female student thought that she would not dare to wear these clothes again after they were retrieved, so she would not have to trouble the policeman so much. Such thoughts may put yourself in a situation of danger without knowing it, because from the cases mentioned just now, you will find that object preferences often steal from fixed places, and it is very dangerous to encounter unexpectedly one day. What is more worth worrying about is that object preferences often satisfy sexual desire through sexual fantasy, so it is very likely that "you do not recognize him, but object preferences recognize you." If one day the fantasy cannot satisfy him and comes directly to you, there will still be potential dangers.

Psychological characteristics of sexual bias behaviors

Sexual bias behaviorists are usually lighter and have insufficient social skills. Compared with people of the same age, they have fewer experience in sexual intercourse, especially the skills to establish close relationships. They generally lack the ability to progress and cultivate close relationships step by step. In addition, imperfect family relationships can also lead to immature personality development, and they often have a strong sense of inferiority and inability to take responsibility. People with sexually deviant behavior are mostly extremely disgusted with their own feelings, which not only discriminates their preferences but also cannot control their own behavior. People with sexually deviant behavior often lack correct sexual knowledge. They are curious about sex and do not have the appropriate channels to understand healthy sexual knowledge. Therefore, they absorb false knowledge through unhealthy A-films, learn in behaviors, and gradually form distorted sexual value.

But unfortunately, the promotion of sex education of different ages in Taiwan has been misunderstood by the public. In fact, sex education is not only about exploring sexual physiology and sexual behavior, or just discussing the narrow range of two sexual behaviors, but a personality education and whole-person education, teaching us how to be a man or woman who is suitable for society; it also teaches us how to understand our physical and mental state, and respect other people's physical autonomy, and only with a healthy mind can we manage happy secret relations.

(This article records the publication "Insight into the hearts of people from habits: Learning to understand people and solving all the troubles of international relationships")